Choosing the Right Therapist for You: Finding the Best Therapist
- Sarah Jane
- Jan 12
- 4 min read
Starting therapy is a brave and important step toward better mental health. But once you decide to seek help, the next question often is - how do you find the right therapist for you? Therapy is a deeply personal experience, and the right fit can make all the difference in your journey. In this post, I want to gently guide you through the process of finding the best therapist, especially if you are based in Brisbane and looking for face-to-face support.
Finding the Best Therapist: What to Look For
Finding the best therapist means more than just picking someone with the right qualifications. It’s about connection, trust, and feeling safe enough to open up. Here are some key factors to consider:
Credentials and Experience: Look for therapists who are registered with professional bodies such as the Australian Psychological Society (APS) or the Psychology Board of Australia. Experience in areas relevant to your concerns (e.g., anxiety, depression, trauma) is important.
Therapeutic Approach: Therapists use different methods like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), or psychodynamic therapy. Understanding these can help you choose someone whose style resonates with you.
Accessibility and Location: Since face-to-face sessions are preferred, consider therapists located in Brisbane or nearby suburbs. This makes attending sessions easier and more consistent.
Personal Comfort: Trust your gut feeling. The therapist should feel approachable and non-judgmental. You want to feel heard and understood.
Availability and Fees: Check if their schedule fits yours and whether their fees are within your budget. Some therapists offer sliding scale fees or bulk billing options.
Taking time to research and reflect on these points can help you narrow down your options and feel more confident in your choice.
What is a Red Flag in Therapy?
While therapy is meant to be a safe space, sometimes things don’t feel quite right. Recognising red flags early can save you from an unhelpful or even harmful experience. Here are some warning signs to watch for:
Lack of Empathy or Warmth: If your therapist seems cold, dismissive, or uninterested in your feelings, it’s a sign they might not be the right fit.
Pushing You Too Hard or Too Fast: Therapy should progress at your pace. Feeling pressured to disclose more than you’re ready for or to make rapid changes can be overwhelming.
Breach of Confidentiality: Trust is foundational. If your therapist shares your information without consent, this is a serious breach.
Unprofessional Behaviour: This includes being late consistently, cancelling frequently, or inappropriate comments.
Ignoring Your Goals: Therapy is collaborative. If your therapist dismisses your goals or imposes their own agenda, it can hinder your progress.
If you notice any of these signs, it’s okay to speak up or consider finding someone else. Your wellbeing is the priority.
How to Prepare for Your First Therapy Session
Starting therapy can feel daunting. Preparing yourself can ease anxiety and help you get the most out of your sessions. Here are some tips:
Clarify Your Goals: Think about what you want to achieve. It could be managing stress, improving relationships, or understanding yourself better.
Write Down Your Concerns: Jotting down key points or questions can help you stay focused during the session.
Be Open but Patient: Therapy is a process. You don’t have to share everything at once. Building trust takes time.
Ask Questions: Don’t hesitate to ask about the therapist’s approach, confidentiality, or anything else on your mind.
Set Practicalities: Confirm session length, frequency, fees, and cancellation policies.
Remember, the first session is as much about you getting to know the therapist as it is about starting therapy.
How to Choose a Therapist That Fits Your Needs
If you’re wondering how to choose a therapist, here’s a simple step-by-step approach that can help:
Start with Research: Use online directories, ask for recommendations, or contact local clinics. Look for therapists who specialise in your areas of concern.
Check Credentials and Reviews: Verify their qualifications and read any available client feedback.
Reach Out for a Consultation: Many therapists offer a brief phone or video call to discuss your needs and see if it feels right.
Reflect on Your Feelings: After the consultation, ask yourself if you felt heard, respected, and comfortable.
Trust Your Instincts: It’s okay to try a few therapists before finding the right one. Therapy is a personal journey, and the right match matters.
Taking these steps can empower you to make an informed choice and start therapy with confidence.
Building a Collaborative Relationship with Your Therapist
Therapy works best when it’s a partnership. You and your therapist are working together toward your wellbeing. Here’s how to foster that collaboration:
Be Honest and Open: Share your thoughts and feelings as honestly as you can. This helps your therapist understand you better.
Give Feedback: If something isn’t working or you want to try a different approach, speak up. Your input is valuable.
Set Goals Together: Work with your therapist to set realistic and meaningful goals.
Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge small wins and growth along the way.
Be Patient: Change takes time. Trust the process and your commitment.
This collaborative spirit creates a safe and empowering space for healing and growth.
Choosing the right therapist is a meaningful step toward better mental health. By considering your needs, recognising red flags, preparing thoughtfully, and building a strong partnership, you can find a therapist who truly supports you. Remember, this journey is about you - your comfort, your pace, and your growth.
If you want to explore more about how to choose a therapist, take your time and trust yourself. The right therapist is out there, ready to walk alongside you.
Thank you for reading, and I hope this guide helps you feel seen, supported, and empowered on your path.
